Something I’ve always considered one of weaknesses is holding grudges. If you did wrong on me when I was 12, you best believe that I remember it!
When I was younger I remember hearing various adults say “nothing surprises me anymore” after gossiping about a local neighbour who had an affair with her husbands brother. I used to wonder, after saying something so scandalous, how they couldn’t be surprised.
However, now at the age of 21, I sadly kind of understand this statement. I can happily say that life still surprises me, but, people really don’t.
I have found that it is the person who has disappointed you once that will continually disappoint you.
For my own sake, I try not to hold grudges anymore. Instead of holding grudges you need to just outgrow shitty people- because frankly they are not worthy of a space in your mind.
“I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown women who wear masks and secretly rejoice at misfortunes. I have outgrown shrinking myself for men who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends and family who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart, or worthy enough. I have outgrown trying to fix every little flaw. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self-doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things, and I’ve never felt freer.” — Chanda Kaushik
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